When I found the courage to make the first approach online, I was sometimes ignored – ouch!But chatting to other cyber-daters, I discovered it’s par for the course.Perhaps the person you’ve contacted is only online to test the water or assess their own attractiveness, and they’re not looking for a relationship at all (it happens). They may be getting over a broken heart, or are in a difficult period in their life. Being turned down doesn’t mean you’re not attractive or likeable, or that you won’t be a perfect match for someone else.
Jehovah’s Witnesses view dating, not as recreation, but as a form of courtship, a serious step toward marriage.
So, you’ve worked up the courage to ask someone on a date, and they’ve said: ‘Thanks, but no thanks.’ Or you’ve spent ages constructing the perfect email to someone on a dating website, and you don’t even get a reply. It can be painful and embarrassing, it can batter your confidence – it can even put you off approaching anyone ever again!
If someone rejects you in a way that’s rude, obnoxious or hurtful, it’s easy to internalise a sense of worthlessness.
Here’s the truth: that kind of behaviour says nothing about you, and everything about them.
But rejection is a fact of life in the dating world, so we need to find ways of dealing with it…