"You have to decide which you want more: a guy who's committed or this guy, even if he won't ever be," Trespicio says.
Check out a craft beer festival, see a local band at some hole-in-the-wall, or challenge him to a mountain bike race.
A new adventure can fortify your relationship since it gives you shared memories to reminiscence about later, and that stronger bond will increase the likelihood he'll want to keep seeing you, exclusively.
"The best type of date allows you to stop texting, put the phone down, and really foster a deep connection," Kelman says.
Restaurants can be nice, but try something a little outside your comfort zone from time to time.
No need to sign up at the homeless shelter only to impress him.